The definition of the word "Resolution" is: A firm decision to do or not do something and the action of solving a problem or dispute. To have the intent to resolve a bad habit or set goals is usually a great thing, but the pressure we put upon ourselves to start resolving because it is January 1st often comes with pressure, disappointment and unrealistic expectations.
New Year's Eve has always been bittersweet and a mix of emotions for me. New Year's Eve of 2006 was my very first date with my husband. So for us, it's like celebrating an anniversary. On the flip-side, I love the holiday and Christmas season so much that I hate to see it end one minute, but once it is over, I also start looking forward to warm summer beach days. And then I do a self-audit of everything I've accomplished or not accomplished the year prior. And regardless of how much I've accomplished, the idea is that the next year will always be better. Oh yeah, and did I mention I also have a January birthday? Indeed. So the plot and pressure thickens.
I don't ever hear anyone say "Last year was so amazing, I just don't know how I can top that". If you are someone who does say that, then kudos my friend. I welcome that kind of positive energy in my life. It's usually more along the lines of "bye, see ya-later....can't wait to see you go....let's start over". Year after year. New Year's Day is really just an annual Monday, filled with hope and new visions that are often forgotten by Thursday.
So what can we do to put less pressure on ourselves, so that when January 1st 2019 comes around we feel a little more content with where we are in our lives? For me, I am going to try to stop lying about my age and own the fact that I am going to be 30 this year. I mean....40. Once I come to grips with that, I am going to set daily and realistic goals for the quality of life of me and my family. I truly believe that consistency is key with everything we want to accomplish. We wouldn't need to rush to the gym on January 2nd if we were already active most days throughout the year, right? Let's take the pressure off of the annual resolutions and set monthly, weekly and daily goals for ourselves year-round. Let's stop making the New Year another Monday do-over.
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